The booking of double dates and meeting the parents is almost as exciting (if not more than) following through with said plan. Because, you don’t just ask anyone to meet the parents and respectively, you don’t introduce your friends to just another notch on the belt (unless they’re in a cab with you at 2am dropping you off at his place on his way home and you happen to pull up at the same time). So, when you’re sitting on the couch together on a lazy afternoon on the weekend and the boy tells you that his parents invited him over for dinner and he wants you to join him, you feel a smile spread across your face. You – having already introduced him to yours – are suddenly reassured in that one sentence he utters, that he in fact feels the same way as you. That he is at a stage where he wants to incorporate and include you in his life and – dare I say – in a rather show and tell like fashion. Same goes for invites to double dates with his besties and yours. Welcome to the process of becoming a part of one anothers’ lives. Not that you weren’t already, but this can be classified as ‘the next step’.
The meet the parents and double date combo pack often come up once you two have spent a reasonable amount of time together a) because you can’t get enough of each other you’re not in the camp of sharing him just yet, and b) you’re learning about each others traits, habits and personalities, as if he’s on a prolonged interview for the position of your one and only. But when you find someone who makes you smile and laugh and who gets you and who you get, you want to share him and present him to those closest to you so they can see (at least part of) what you see in him. So they can establish a relationship of their own with him. So you can see if he blends well with your life as you know it; with those most important to you. And that’s when these dates come about. When the urge to share and show hit.
Watching your guy engage in conversations and banter and laughter with ‘your side’, invites you to take a seat and observe whether the traits he shows you are exclusive to him or not. And if they are, it is a clear sign that this little something something you got going on is headed in the right direction.
To date your boyfriends friends and his extended social network as well, is to establish a further understanding of each other and how you each operate. By dating your boyfriends friends whilst holding his hand, allows you both to bond even further, over a shared sense of connection. And it also sorta, kinda lets you see (if you hadn’t already) that maybe this is something more serious then just a rebound. Then just killing some time together.
Oh and if you’ve dated for a month or two and have yet to meet his friends, may I plaster a big red flag across this blog? Think about it: when you’re head over heels for someone new you want to share this new found happiness (and person) with everyone.
- Jenny Jen